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6 PMS is no excuse to he mean.
"I know girls get weird at 'that time of the month,' but I don't get why they have to act like I'm their worst enemy," confides Tam . "Sometimes, my sister acts like she wishes I were dead because I won't give her the remote control, but all that's going on is she's PMS-ing. Screaming at me and freaking out on me isn't right."
We know what you're thinking: Boys just don't understand what it feels like to wake up with serious cramps and have to get up from that warm bed at 6 a.m. to put on tight jeans over a bloated belly so you can go do fractionals in homeroom. So, yeah, we feel your pain--and we really mean feel it . But that's the point: Boys don't .
Knowledge is power . So, you're pained? Look, face it--the hormones that go with menstruating affect moods and, yeah, sometimes make a girl mean as a hungry dog. But barking at a boy because you don't feel well? Just deal the best you can by taking care of yourself . This includes not totally indulging in caffeine, sugar or greasy foods--all three aggravate physical and emotional symptoms . Get plenty of sleep , drink loads of water , and take lots of warm baths--yes , even in the afternoon when you get home from school . Soaking in bubbles while daydreaming is an on-your-period girl's best friend .
I'm not saying you should become a menstrual recluse just because you're wearing a maxi-pad . But sometimes maybe it is better to bow out of a social opp if you're really not up to it . What's the point of going to the party if you're not gonna have a good time? Oh , and if you do snap at your boy for no other reason than those nasty hormonal intrusions , a short , simple apology ("Sorry--I was in a bad state of mind yesterday") could go a long way . No lengthy , drawn-out explanations necessary . He'll never fully understand, so don't even try . Err , you get what I mean here , ey ?
7 Talking about your "big" butt is so boring.
"If there's one thing I can't stand , it's when a girl asks me if she looks fat ," says Anass . "For one thing , I don't know if you're fat . For another thing , shut up ." O'oh, Anass is feisty , but a lot of the boys echo his sentiment , ey ?
Boys do not want to listen to a girl's insecurities about her body . True, some guys have issues with what a girl weighs , but they all have different tastes when it comes to the feminine physique . Some guys like booties like Jennifer Lopez's . Other guys like their girls thin as a fence post . Who cares? You are what you are , so talking about your body is about as interesting as studying the Dead Sea .
Knowledge is power . Whether you're questioning a guy friend for his honest opinion or fishing for a compliment from a guy you like , asking about your body is a no-win situation . You're just putting the guy on the spot . And , guess what--if a boy likes you , he likes you for the way you are right now , this second . A shy boy named Zack says it awesome; "Girls' bodies are an endless mystery to me . I think you're all beautiful." Err .
8 Tight clothes look uncomfortable, cheap, and sort of desperate and insecure.
"My sister complains that boys always stare at her boobs , but she wears tight shirts that totally show off her boobs," says Kevin . "I'm confused."
Kevin , nice boy , you should be confused . Fashion is stupid*sometimes* . If MTV execs dressed the world , the official girl wardrobe would be a tireless supply of all-occasion bikini tops , mini skirts and thongs . But the too-much-skin fashions can be , well , bimbo .
Knowledge is power . "I think girls gel mixed up because of how people dress on TV," says Malik . "Showing a lot of skin in super-tight clothes just says to everyone, 'Please look at me!' If you need to wear those kinds of clothes , you're obviously not confident."
If you find Christina Aguilera garb cute , just know that popstars have lots of perks--one of which is wearing costumes . However "street" they look , these duds are designed for performing . If you copy Christina's skin-tillating take on everyday clothes , you give off a very definite vibe that's all about exposure and "look at my body" exhibitionism . Is that really what you want? Think of it this way: If you overheard a boy say about you, "I want to go out with her because she has great cleavage and I can see part of her butt every day in her short shorts," would you be offended or flattered? Hint: Be offended!
9 Most boys are looking for the right girl.
Daniel puts it so eloquently: "I would love to find a girl who's cool and doesn't act like such a girl." We're not sure what acting like a girl leans, but it could have something to do with much of what's been addressed right here in this article .
Whatever his logic, Daniel is not the only boy looking for a girl to like! Don't believe it? "I'm sick of everyone acting like boys aren't as mature as girls," says D.B. "It's just that we also think about other stuff. If it happens , it happens , but I'm not going to talk to my friends on the phone about girls every day."
D.B.'s friend Ray has another, um , interesting point: "So many girls at my school are hot, but me and my friends just wait for them to figure out who they want because that's what girls seem to do at my school . It's like they're all spazzed out about finding a boyfriend all the time . We just have to wait and see who they act dumb around because that means she likes you." Wanna slap Ray? Take a number.
Knowledge is power . One thing that is abundantly clear is that boys think girls are way too into finding a BF . As Ereq says , "Do girls want any guy or the right guy?" Sending signals is good because some boys are shy just as some girls are shy . But check to see if you and your girls are overdoing it . Do you constantly discuss guys? Is who-likes-who the topic du jour, every jour? If so, pull back a bit, at least around the guys . This way they'll be able to see what's really important to you: makeup (kidding!). teeheeee :D
10 If you like him, just tell him.
There was one major statement that kept popping up on my surveys: "Girls should not flirt and act like they like me , and then later ignore me." Maybe the flirting thing is to girls what the phone is to boys: You're just flirting to feel him out , and it doesn't have to mean anything heavy . We get that .
But for guys , if you're smiling and being nice to him , well , then you want him for a boyfriend . At least , that's how many of the surveyed boys see it . "There is a big difference between just being cool and flirting," says Aiman . "I can tell if a girl is just talking to me or if she likes me." Maybe . Maybe not."
By that logic , when you want to make friends with a boy , striking up a random convo could be misinterpreted as major flirting. So what is the safe middle ground? "If you like me , just tell me . If you don't , say you're not into me like that," says Ray.
Knowledge is power . OK, just telling a guy you like him isn't as easy as it sounds . But all the guys agreed on this one , which means it should work . Courage to be honest? You can do it , girls :)
# Today , 26th May 2011 , I'm having a great great time with my girls , Nina and Liyana . Thanks to Abang Am for being the driver and our guardian :D
People live with so many thoughts . So , think wise :)
peaceOUT!
may.ALLAH.bless
This entry is kesinambungan from THIS post :)
So , we'll jump to the next number ...
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| hate the feel of depression |
6 PMS is no excuse to he mean.
"I know girls get weird at 'that time of the month,' but I don't get why they have to act like I'm their worst enemy," confides Tam . "Sometimes, my sister acts like she wishes I were dead because I won't give her the remote control, but all that's going on is she's PMS-ing. Screaming at me and freaking out on me isn't right."
We know what you're thinking: Boys just don't understand what it feels like to wake up with serious cramps and have to get up from that warm bed at 6 a.m. to put on tight jeans over a bloated belly so you can go do fractionals in homeroom. So, yeah, we feel your pain--and we really mean feel it . But that's the point: Boys don't .
Knowledge is power . So, you're pained? Look, face it--the hormones that go with menstruating affect moods and, yeah, sometimes make a girl mean as a hungry dog. But barking at a boy because you don't feel well? Just deal the best you can by taking care of yourself . This includes not totally indulging in caffeine, sugar or greasy foods--all three aggravate physical and emotional symptoms . Get plenty of sleep , drink loads of water , and take lots of warm baths--yes , even in the afternoon when you get home from school . Soaking in bubbles while daydreaming is an on-your-period girl's best friend .
I'm not saying you should become a menstrual recluse just because you're wearing a maxi-pad . But sometimes maybe it is better to bow out of a social opp if you're really not up to it . What's the point of going to the party if you're not gonna have a good time? Oh , and if you do snap at your boy for no other reason than those nasty hormonal intrusions , a short , simple apology ("Sorry--I was in a bad state of mind yesterday") could go a long way . No lengthy , drawn-out explanations necessary . He'll never fully understand, so don't even try . Err , you get what I mean here , ey ?
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| like seriously . NO ONE CARES |
"If there's one thing I can't stand , it's when a girl asks me if she looks fat ," says Anass . "For one thing , I don't know if you're fat . For another thing , shut up ." O'oh, Anass is feisty , but a lot of the boys echo his sentiment , ey ?
Boys do not want to listen to a girl's insecurities about her body . True, some guys have issues with what a girl weighs , but they all have different tastes when it comes to the feminine physique . Some guys like booties like Jennifer Lopez's . Other guys like their girls thin as a fence post . Who cares? You are what you are , so talking about your body is about as interesting as studying the Dead Sea .
Knowledge is power . Whether you're questioning a guy friend for his honest opinion or fishing for a compliment from a guy you like , asking about your body is a no-win situation . You're just putting the guy on the spot . And , guess what--if a boy likes you , he likes you for the way you are right now , this second . A shy boy named Zack says it awesome; "Girls' bodies are an endless mystery to me . I think you're all beautiful." Err .
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| love me for who I am |
8 Tight clothes look uncomfortable, cheap, and sort of desperate and insecure.
"My sister complains that boys always stare at her boobs , but she wears tight shirts that totally show off her boobs," says Kevin . "I'm confused."
Kevin , nice boy , you should be confused . Fashion is stupid*sometimes* . If MTV execs dressed the world , the official girl wardrobe would be a tireless supply of all-occasion bikini tops , mini skirts and thongs . But the too-much-skin fashions can be , well , bimbo .
Knowledge is power . "I think girls gel mixed up because of how people dress on TV," says Malik . "Showing a lot of skin in super-tight clothes just says to everyone, 'Please look at me!' If you need to wear those kinds of clothes , you're obviously not confident."
If you find Christina Aguilera garb cute , just know that popstars have lots of perks--one of which is wearing costumes . However "street" they look , these duds are designed for performing . If you copy Christina's skin-tillating take on everyday clothes , you give off a very definite vibe that's all about exposure and "look at my body" exhibitionism . Is that really what you want? Think of it this way: If you overheard a boy say about you, "I want to go out with her because she has great cleavage and I can see part of her butt every day in her short shorts," would you be offended or flattered? Hint: Be offended!
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| if nothing goes right . Go left |
9 Most boys are looking for the right girl.
Daniel puts it so eloquently: "I would love to find a girl who's cool and doesn't act like such a girl." We're not sure what acting like a girl leans, but it could have something to do with much of what's been addressed right here in this article .
Whatever his logic, Daniel is not the only boy looking for a girl to like! Don't believe it? "I'm sick of everyone acting like boys aren't as mature as girls," says D.B. "It's just that we also think about other stuff. If it happens , it happens , but I'm not going to talk to my friends on the phone about girls every day."
D.B.'s friend Ray has another, um , interesting point: "So many girls at my school are hot, but me and my friends just wait for them to figure out who they want because that's what girls seem to do at my school . It's like they're all spazzed out about finding a boyfriend all the time . We just have to wait and see who they act dumb around because that means she likes you." Wanna slap Ray? Take a number.
Knowledge is power . One thing that is abundantly clear is that boys think girls are way too into finding a BF . As Ereq says , "Do girls want any guy or the right guy?" Sending signals is good because some boys are shy just as some girls are shy . But check to see if you and your girls are overdoing it . Do you constantly discuss guys? Is who-likes-who the topic du jour, every jour? If so, pull back a bit, at least around the guys . This way they'll be able to see what's really important to you: makeup (kidding!). teeheeee :D
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| spread the LOVE |
10 If you like him, just tell him.
There was one major statement that kept popping up on my surveys: "Girls should not flirt and act like they like me , and then later ignore me." Maybe the flirting thing is to girls what the phone is to boys: You're just flirting to feel him out , and it doesn't have to mean anything heavy . We get that .
But for guys , if you're smiling and being nice to him , well , then you want him for a boyfriend . At least , that's how many of the surveyed boys see it . "There is a big difference between just being cool and flirting," says Aiman . "I can tell if a girl is just talking to me or if she likes me." Maybe . Maybe not."
By that logic , when you want to make friends with a boy , striking up a random convo could be misinterpreted as major flirting. So what is the safe middle ground? "If you like me , just tell me . If you don't , say you're not into me like that," says Ray.
Knowledge is power . OK, just telling a guy you like him isn't as easy as it sounds . But all the guys agreed on this one , which means it should work . Courage to be honest? You can do it , girls :)
# Today , 26th May 2011 , I'm having a great great time with my girls , Nina and Liyana . Thanks to Abang Am for being the driver and our guardian :D
People live with so many thoughts . So , think wise :)
peaceOUT!
may.ALLAH.bless
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